tending death & ancestry
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death tending
live — $180 / 90 min
recorded — $150 / 30-60 min
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what is death tending?
also called psychopomp, death walking or crossing over, death tending is the facilitation of a soul’s transition from life into death. similar to tending birth, every experience of this threshold will be unique, but the key, necessary functions remain the same in every case.
for both the dead or the dying, this can include the facilitation of healing or clearing necessary for the release and reconciliation with life, the escort of the spirit ‘across the rainbow bridge’ to ‘the land of the dead,’ and may also include work with the living in tending grief, letting go and the necessary shifts in relationship. this process can be as simple as a single prayer or as involved as one or several sessions, depending on the context, and may involve ancestral healing, other forms of shamanic healing or potential referrals to other trusted practitioners in my networks.
how do i know if death tending is necessary?
for loved ones or family of someone who has died, some form of death tending can assumed to be beneficial, depending on the context, but some common signs that a death was not well-tended and should be addressed can be:
the feeling that the person has not moved on and is still present in a home / place / relationship / etc
a feeling of dependency / emotional enmeshment / cording / etc with the person
a feeling that the person has unfinished business they’re still trying to accomplish and/or does not know they’re dead
unexplained illness / accidents / conflict / intrusive spiritual experiences / etc following the death
what is ancestral healing?
this is a form of spirit healing performed specifically for the unresolved ancestors whose patterns and influence may be negatively affecting you (and your family’s) lives, work, health and relationships.
during an ancestral healing session i’ll engage a drum journey (aka shamanic journey) as an altered state, accessing the ancestral realms through a construct unique to the Cycle Teachings to seek the unresolved ancestral energies at the root of the presenting issues we discuss. there i’ll work with the helping spirits to clear these issues at their roots and allow any ancestors bound up in reinforcing these patterns to cross over (aka psychopomp), removing the active influence of the pattern(s) on the living. afterwards, we’ll work together to discern clear follow-up steps, which may include learning to cultivate right relationship with your well ancestors and clearing your own inherited versions of the patterns as they show up in your life.
how do i know i need an ancestral healing?
on the one hand, we can generally assume that most contemporary people have unresolved ancestral energies in their lineages that could benefit from some attention, but some common signs that an issue is ancestral can be:
the feeling of being ‘ridden’ or ‘possessed’ by patterns that aren’t ours or that feel bigger or older than our one life
issues that show up in multiple family members / generations that seem to carry the same resonance, even if the presenting symptoms are unique
issues that you’ve done really good work around shifting in many modalities that seem to persist or reappear no matter what
intrusive spiritual / visionary experiences involving the dead, ancestors, ghosts, etc
where does this work come from?
in many cultures throughout history, it was understood that death is a process which requires active, intentional tending, by the living, in ways both practical and energetic, in order for this key life transition to happen in ways that are healthy for all of life. contemporary western cultures have largely abandoned this responsibility, thus we live in a time of endemic ancestral unwellness, often going back centuries, which manifests in ways that are clearly toxic but often difficult to parse given their ubiquity in modern life.
though i am influenced by and appreciate other systems of tending death and ancestral relationships, my training is principally in the Cycle Teachings, as taught by Last Mask Center, and the protocol i use for these healing sessions is used with permission from that body of work.
who is this for?
any and everyone can potentially benefit from this work. no particular background, belief or experience is required.
do you have to be ‘in the room’ for this to be effective?
this work can be done very effectively at a distance.
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